Welcome to KWAT (Kachin Women's Association Thailand)

I do not know what the solution is, but I can tell you what it isn't, at the very least for me. It isn't to aim to look or act younger. It isn't to write articles about how hot/thin/beautiful/ sexy middle-aged women are.

They are, but wasting my written voice on championing shallow efforts at continued conformity to what is looked forward to of women in a patriarchal society does not feel productive. It is a dangerous capitulation. It lures women my age to swap away opportunities to weigh in on concerns for a chance to be among the "seen" again. I won't play a game I abhor, which I did not create and can not succeed.

To be an aging woman in The U.S.A. is to become constantly saturated by imagery and press that distance your younger feminist sisters from you, because the idea of not looking like those youthful images of femininity and becoming invisible alarms them. I resemble a common 51-year-old, and it is just unusual recognizing that my appearance is something many young women fear.

You can view the Butterfly Ageless Beauty Blog at https://blog.butterflyagelessbeauty.com

Ageism is a life-altering injustice affecting women in ways that are different than the effects on men-- different in age of onset and degree and personal repercussion. If we continue to be erased in the next half of our lives, we will continue being caught in a continuous cycle of conflating youth with greater social relevance in the first half of our lives, and the patriarchal axiom that women are only beneficial when they are young, hot and fertile will continue undisputed.

Let's unify. Let's make a vigilant effort to quit putting down older women to set oneself aside from them and from an inescapable form of unfairness that can not currently be avoided. Regardless of what you think about Madonna at 65, or Jamie Lee Curtis at 77, let's acknowledge that most of us will eventually be 78, if we aren't already, and we'll want to define for individually what that means.

Certainly it will entail relevance and influence, whether we are vocalists, entertainers, journalists, lobbyists, or any other identity we have chosen and loved. As feminists we are stronger collectively than apart-- women of all nationalities, of all gender expressions, of all sexual preferences, of all socioeconomic classes, of all religious beliefs, of all ethnic backgrounds, and yes, of all ages, too.